Family Counselling
“The family is one of nature’s masterpieces.” – George Santayana
In today’s world when everything is losing its meaning, the need to realize the importance of family more than ever.
The role of counsellors in family matters has become much more crucial in the recent times with the advance in modernization, economy, communication and technology. Family values and relationships have undergone change which has an impact on each of the family members. Family is the main instrument in the socialization of the child. It plays an important role in the growth and development of an individual. It shapes the attitudes and belief system of its members.
As an individual has a life span, similarly a family has a life cycle starting from courtship and marriage to empty nest and old age when the children leave home and the couple is again on their own. Throughout this life cycle, demands are placed on the family by its members, tensions arise, expectations come up, arguments made, justifications given and rebellions are made. At the same time, care, support, advice, guidance and encouragement are also given to its members. Sometimes, the arguments and misunderstandings become too much where the harmony falls apart, and members start to distance themselves. This is the time for family counselling and seek support.
Usually challenges faced are:
- Not able to have an understanding and communication with an adolescent child
- Misunderstandings with extended family members like in-laws or with siblings.
- Family has gone through loss and doesn’t know how to cope with it.
- Planning for a mutual consent separation but doesn’t know how to communicate the same with children or parents.
- Confusion with roles and demands of the family.
A family member is going through menopause or midlife crisis and feels no one understands the situation.
What we do at Threewaves ?
- We help the members understand the family as a system.
- Psychoeducation on life skills for family members.
- Help them to adopt more helpful patterns and develop better communication and management of skills
- We address the issues of family tension, guilt, blame and scapegoating, maladjustment and family expectations.
- We will help the members conceptualize and look at their problems from a broader perspective.
- Help to create open and clear interaction among family members.
- Help to overcome family crisis and respond to the challenges effectively.
Typically, we follow a systematic approach in resolving the issues:
- Define the family problem
- Understand the pattern of communication, blame and fights.
- Determine what family has done to resolve the problem
- Establish family goals
- Construct therapeutic
- Interventions focusing on the problem areas
- Follow up
We assist family members to improve their understanding of each other and the system. We use different kinds of tools and techniques for this purpose. We encourage the family to work as a team and few homework assignments are given to have the commitment from family members and to check the improvements.
We work with all members together or sometimes with couples or sometimes it may require to have individual sessions of each members. Every case requires different approaches. The number of sessions depends on each case. Some cases require very few sessions and some may require more sessions. Every case is unique and the techniques and services are customised
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