Family Counselling

“The family is one of nature’s masterpieces.” – George Santayana
In today’s world when everything is losing its meaning, the need to realize the importance of family more than ever.

The role of counsellors in family matters has become much more crucial in the recent times with the advance in modernization, economy, communication and technology.  Family values and relationships have undergone change which has an impact on each of the family members.  Family is the main instrument in the socialization of the child.  It plays an important role in the growth and development of an individual.  It shapes the attitudes and belief system of its members.

As an individual has a life span, similarly a family has a life cycle starting from courtship and marriage to empty nest and old age when the children leave home and the couple is again on their own.  Throughout this life cycle, demands are placed on the family by its members, tensions arise, expectations come up, arguments made, justifications given and rebellions are made.  At the same time, care, support, advice, guidance and encouragement are also given to its members.  Sometimes, the arguments and misunderstandings become too much where the harmony falls apart, and members start to distance themselves. This is the time for family counselling and seek support.



Usually challenges faced are:

A family member is going through menopause or midlife crisis and feels no one understands the situation.

What we do at Threewaves ?

Typically, we follow a systematic approach in resolving the issues:

  • Define the family problem
  • Understand the pattern of communication, blame and fights.
  • Determine what family has done to resolve the problem
  • Establish family goals
  • Construct therapeutic
  • Interventions focusing on the problem areas
  • Follow up

We assist family members to improve their understanding of each other and the system. We use different kinds of tools and techniques for this purpose. We encourage the family to work as a team and few homework assignments are given to have the commitment from family members and to check the improvements.

We work with all members together or sometimes with couples or sometimes it may require to have individual sessions of each members. Every case requires different approaches. The number of sessions depends on each case. Some cases require very few sessions and some may require more sessions. Every case is unique and the techniques and services are customised

Few helpful Tips

1.  Spend quality time. It is an old saying that a family which eats and prays together, stays together.
2.  Communication is the key to successful relationships.  Having healthy communication is important.
3.  Sharing is caring.  Gone are the days when man would go out to work and, woman would cook and take care of the house and children.  Tasks must be shared by every member of the family.  This helps in keeping the family together.
4.  Appreciation.  Appreciating small efforts, goes a long way in building healthy relationships.
5.  Give space.  Being together doesn’t mean sticking together always.  To respect the space of each member is important.
6.  Accountability.  In healthy families, members take responsibilities for their actions.   Be accountable for your actions. 
7.  Give one on one time for each member.  Every member must spend time with every other member.
8.  Be there for the family.  There may be times when one of the family members need support and strength from the other family members.  Be the support system for your family.
9.  Modelling.  Parents must exhibit strong problem solving skills and positive behaviour. Children are always learning whether its good behaviour or bad behaviour.
10.  There may be times when things don’t go right even after all the efforts.  During those times taking help of a therapist/ counsellor is not a sign of weakness or failure.